My kids were the fifth generation of my family to call our
farm ‘home’. Our house was old, it had its share of creaks and squeaks, but it
was that homey kind of comfortable that made it so special Well, except for the tiny closets. That was...not fun. But what does this have to do parenting? Keep reading and you’ll
find out.
A few years ago I asked my now-adult children what life-lessons they’d learned
from me. One of my daughters said she’d finally learned why keeping a clean
house was so important. I actually laughed out-loud when I read this, because I
cannot even begin to count the times I got made fun of by John and the kids for
dust mopping the floors a few times a day and being the mom that, at the end of
the day, had a place for everything and everything in its place.
Hey, when you farm and have kids running in and out of the
house all day stuff just naturally gets tracked inside and I’m still not
apologizing for wanting to be able to walk around the house on clean floors. So
when they made fun of me and gave me a hard time I told them they’d really have
something to complain about it I didn’t keep the floors clean, and then kept
right on dusting.
And with all the toys, books, and ‘stuff’ that goes along
with having four kids, the house would have been in a constant state of chaos had I not made sure everything had a place to 'land' at the end of the day. I also knew I was doing a lot more than just keeping the house neat and clean. I knew I was...
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Giving my family a place where they could rest
comfortably
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Giving my family a soft and safe place to call home after being confronted by the chaos of work, school, and the world in general
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Teaching my kids to take pride (the good kind)
in themselves and their surroundings because it is a reflection of who they are
on the inside
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Teaching my kids to respect what it took for
John to provide for us and respect for my role as a homemaker
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Teaching my kids to respect personal property
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Teaching my kids to be responsible
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Teaching my kids to be respectful of the rights
and feelings of others
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Teaching my kids to be cooperative and to be
team-players
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Teaching my kids that being organized makes life
less stressful (they never had to dig through piles of anything to find what
they needed yesterday)
Yes, I knew what I was doing, even if they didn’t. Not yet, anyway. And even though I’ve had to bite my tongue a few times to keep
from saying “I told you so,” I can’t tell you how nice it is to know that after
all these years and all that dusting and sweeping, and picking up and putting
away, they finally get it.
So, even though you may think what you say and do is going in
one ear and out the other or flying right over the tops of their little heads,
I can tell you for sure and for certain that your children are absorbing more
than you think they are. So don’t give up. Keep on teaching those life-lessons
by doing what you know is best and being the kind of person you want your kids
to be and someday just like me you’ll be biting your tongue to keep from saying,
“I told you so!”
Love,
Momma D
Copyright 2016 Darla Noble. No part of this can be used or copied without permission from the author.
