A couple of years ago Mackenzie decided to play soccer. Sadly, I was unable to make it to the first game of the
season, so I called her that evening to see how it went. When
she came to the phone I asked, “How did your soccer games go today?” Without
missing a beat she replied, “I made a new friend!” She then proceeded to tell
me her new friend’s name and a few other pertinent details including that they
were both born in the month of July.
I can’t even begin to tell you how proud I was of Mackenzie's answer to my question because her answer revealed her true heart—a
heart that is more concerned about friendship and the socialization aspects of
being 8 and playing soccer than she was about winning. To Mackenzie, being on a soccer
team was about making friends AND learning to play with her peers instead always being the winner and of
getting a head start on being in line for a college scholarship.
Parents, if reading this starts your head to nodding and has
you saying things like “That’s the way it should be” or “Good job, Mackenzie”,
keep up the great work!
If, on the other hand, reading this causes you to shake your
head, cringe, and say things like, “If she’s not going to play to win, she
shouldn’t even be playing”, or “I’m glad she’s not on my kid’s team”, then
shame on you.
First of all, having great social skills and caring more about people than winning is something every parent should want for their kids. Secondly, eight year-old sports teams shouldn’t really be about anything but learning how to be a team-player and how to be a gracious winner and looser. And lastly, college should be the last thing on your mind regarding your eight year-old. Enjoy your kids for who they are now. Don’t miss their childhood by focusing on the future. Trust me when I say that the time passes way too fast without any help from you.
First of all, having great social skills and caring more about people than winning is something every parent should want for their kids. Secondly, eight year-old sports teams shouldn’t really be about anything but learning how to be a team-player and how to be a gracious winner and looser. And lastly, college should be the last thing on your mind regarding your eight year-old. Enjoy your kids for who they are now. Don’t miss their childhood by focusing on the future. Trust me when I say that the time passes way too fast without any help from you.
The bottom line here is this: Friends are way more important
that winning a game of soccer…no matter how old you are. And as a parent, it’s
your job to let your kids know it’s perfectly okay for them to feel this way.
It’s also job for your kids to see you feel the same way.
Love,
Momma DCopyright 2016 Darla Noble. No part of this can be used or copied without permission from the author.
