Last week I spent one evening babysitting my four and two year-old granddaughters. As I sat playing with two year-old Landrey, I was both thankful and impressed at how far her speech has come in the nearly five months since we welcomed her into our family and our hearts the night she and her daddy and momma (my daughter, Elizabeth) returned from South Korea.
And then I thought of my five year-old grandson, Reuben. He has biological parents in Taiwan where he was born, but he's got his momma's personality (my daughter, Olivia) through and through.
Both of my daughters who are moms through adoption went through a great deal of pain and sick-to-your-stomach feelings in the process of bringing their children home.
As a mother it was painful for me to watch my girls go through so much to get their babies. It's not at all like pregnancy. Ironically it took nine months from Reuben's birth to get him here, but that nine months was time Olivia spent missing out on her son's life instead of physically making him. And in Landrey's case, it took a year for her to actually become ours-a year that included some stressful and difficult situations beyond our control.
So what's my point? My point is to remind you that too many people consider adoption easy or a quick-fix for having a baby. My girls endured several comments about 'escaping morning sickness' or 'taking the easy way out' by skipping the pain of labor. Wrong! Adoptive parents go through months and months of their own 'brand' of morning sickness and labor-sometimes even years!
So be mindful of adoptive parents and their feelings. Be compassionate and most of all, be sure to give them all the love, attention and special treatment all expectant parents deserve.
Love,
Momma D
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