If you've been a Momma D follower you may recognize this post from previous years about this same time. Yes, it's a repeat, but that's because this is something I truly believe can't be said too often. Our children's hearts are tender and impressionable and we need to do what we can to guard and protect them from being injured. But we shouldn't have to feel like we're flying solo. As parents we need to be mindful of the hearts of all children. So with that being said, please keep reading and please take these words to heart.
About few years ago I read something that broke my
heart. It was an open letter from a mom to all the other moms ‘out there’. The
woman was asking moms across the country to please have Santa give their
children ordinary gifts rather than expensive, extravagant items like phones,
computers, gaming devices, designer clothes, and the latest and greatest toys.
She asked that if parents chose to give their children these items that they
come from them instead of Santa.
Why? Because she never wanted to be put in the position of
having to answer her six year-old daughter’s question again—“Why does Santa
Claus like other kids more than he does me?”
This loving mother explained that she and her husband worked
hard to provide for their two children, but their paychecks barely paid for the
necessities in life like rent, childcare, food, utilities, clothes, and vehicle
expenses. In other words, there wasn’t much left for Christmas.
“We couldn’t afford the things other kids in their classes
at school got,” she said. “But when my daughter heard other kids talking about
what they got, she was hurt and confused. Not because she didn’t get those
things, but because she viewed the obvious differences as a sign that she wasn’t
good enough in Santa’s eyes to merit such gifts—that she had done something bad
or wrong to cause him not to bring her the same type of gifts some of her
friends received.”
She went on to say that she didn’t want people feeling sorry
for them and that she wasn’t asking for a hand-out. She just wanted to remind
people that since we tell our kids that Santa loves all boys and girls and that
he brings gifts to them because of this love, we need to make Santa an ‘equal
opportunity gift-giver’.
So as you get ready to head out to grab up all those great deals and try to fulfil the wishes of everyone on your gift list,
remember that it really isn’t the cost or extravagance of the gift, but the
fact that you thought of giving anything at all. Besides, if you think about
it, Santa can’t possibly afford all those things, so….
Love,
Momma D
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